Creating safety in relationships
Would you like to strengthen your relationships with the children and young people you support? Want to know more about the relate–rupture–repair cycle and how this develops resilience? Are you interested in practising your relational skills so you can manage ruptures better?
About this course
As Thrive practitioners we understand that distressed behaviour is a communication of unmet need. This understanding enables us to respond to the need by regulating and containing the emotion, rather than reacting to the behaviour. In turn, this helps the child to develop healthier ways of managing stress. Equally important to our ability to attune to the child’s needs, is being able to recognise ruptures in our relationship with a child and to repair them. Such ruptures are an inevitable part of relating and, provided we can repair them, help foster the child’s resilience. This is because the repeated experience of ruptures being repaired gives the child a sense of trust and safety that even when things go wrong in the relationship, they can be put right.
In this workshop, we will explore the relate–rupture–repair cycle, looking at each of the different phases and considering how movement through the cycle helps to strengthen our relationships. In addition, we will revisit the VRFs and PACE, exploring how these relational skills can help us to repair ruptures by practising the skills in an everyday scenario. Finally, we will explore the implications of this for our work with children and young people.
You will come away from the workshop with:
• a deeper insight into the relate–rupture–repair cycle
• an opportunity to experience the different phases of relate, rupture and repair
• practice in using relational skills to repair ruptures when they arise.