The importance of reframing challenging behaviour

25th November 2022 2 minute read

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The importance of reframing challenging behaviour

Conscious intention v. stress response 

We tend to think of behaviour as purposeful. If a child is able to talk, listen and understand, we usually assume that their behaviour is a conscious intention.

Mona Delahooke is a paediatric clinical psychologist and author of the book Beyond Behaviours: Using Brain Science and Compassion to Understand and Solve Children’s Behavioural Challenges. In the below podcast, she invites us to view things completely differently. And to consider the meaning behind different behaviours before responding.

Hitting and screaming, rewards and consequences

If you’re looking to improve pupils’ behaviour, press play below to hear what 30 years of caring for children and young people has taught Mona about challenging behaviour. We’re discussing hitting and screaming, rewards and consequences, and why emotional attunement is so effective. Ready to start your journey towards calmer classrooms? Press play below to get started. (You'll also hear from Christopher Harrison, Assistant Headteacher at Grove Road Community School, about why he's taking a longer-term view of attainment, rather than focusing on short-term targets).

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Over to you

At Thrive, we’ve been supporting educators to tackle behaviour for over 25 years. If you’re seeking calmer classrooms, engaged learners and improved attainment, click here to book a Discovery Call with your regional expert. Designed to fit in around your schedule, these free 30-minute conversations via Teams give you a chance to have your questions answered, decide if our service is a fit for your needs, and identify if you qualify for a £1,200 DfE grant to spend in your setting.

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